"You are the only one who can make you happy." We have all heard that so many times in

our lives.
       “你是唯一一个可以让自己幸福的人。”我们总是听到有人说我们还有很多的时间。

       There are times it is a pretty tough pill to swallow. In reality, the people that

surround you have a huge impact on your current mood. When your children are grumpy in the

morning, you find a nice pile the dog left you over night, you hit the road and the traffic

won't allow you your normal speed, then when you get to work and your co-worker called in

sick... these are all things that might contribute to your overall Happiness of the day.
       那些时间就像在吞咽一颗苦涩的药片让人无奈。事实上，你围绕在你周围的人会对你的心情会有相当

大的影响。例如，早晨你的孩子很不听话，一夜过后你的够给你留下一堆特别的东西，你撞到墙上然后交

通又限制你正常速度，当你开始工作时你的同事打电话说他身体不适等等，这些事情都将会影响你一整天

的幸福感觉。

       However, moods and temporary emotions are not the same as happiness. Happiness exists

when you look at the overall picture of your life and you smile, that is happiness. You know

those times when you can't wait for your children to go to bed, then later you check on the

kids and you almost cry because they look exactly like angels... YOUR ANGELS, sleeping so

sweetly and soundly. You can hardly remember a time of irritation with them. That is

Happiness.
       然而，心情和暂时的情感都是不能和幸福相提并论的。幸福存在于你看到你生活的整个画面时，你面

带微笑。是的，这才是幸福。你知道的，你没能等到你孩子去睡觉，但是当去检查他们睡得是否安好时，

你几乎能流泪，因为他们睡得是如此的香甜，就像是天使……你的天使。你似乎不记得他们曾有让生气的

时候了。这才是幸福。

       As life progresses and changes, we realize that who we are, (what makes us, us)... that

is what we are responsible for. We know that immediate gratification or irritation only

pacifies or deteriorates our emotional stimuli short term. Our global view of how we see

ourselves determines our state of mind. Our state of mind determines our Happiness.
     随着生活的变化和提高，我们开始认识到我们是谁，（是什么早就了现在的我们，我们…）…我们的

责任是什么。我们知道一时的满足和烦恼只是使我们使情绪得到短暂安慰或恶化。我们对我们自己的整体

看法才会决定我们精神状态，而我们的精神状态又决定我们的幸福。

       So, how do we take control of our emotions and find the path of Happiness? This seems to

be the million dollar question. There are tons of books on or related to the subject. You

could read and practice until you are completely confused. Or, we could spend the rest of

our life introspectively evaluating what makes us happy. Which might take more time and

energy and actually frustrate us more.
     于是，我们要如何来控制我们的情绪，进而发现通往幸福的捷径呢？这似乎是一个价值连城的问题。

已经有成吨重的书对这个主题进行了阐述或涉及。你可以读读这些书并依此付诸实践，知道你彻底迷茫；

或者，我们可以用我们余下的时间来反思和评估是什么让我们幸福。这些可能占有我们更多的时间和精力

和带给我们更多的挫败。

       How about this? What if we looked at ourselves and decided what we liked and didn't like

and set about making changes. It doesn't have to be major alterations. Maybe you are tired

of your house but can't afford to move. Try painting the living room or buying flowers to

set on the kitchen table. If you haven't had a vacation for awhile and just can't afford to

take that cruise, go camping instead.
       那么如果我们这样做呢？我们如果先自我审视一番，然后决定什么是我们喜欢的，什么是我们不喜欢

的，接着开始改变。没有必要一定是大的变化。例如，可能你已经厌倦了你现在的房子，但是你又没有钱

新买房搬家。那么你可以试着给你的房间刷上新的油漆，或者买一些花放到你的餐桌上。可能你没有一个

完整的长假去做长途旅行，那么你可以尝试去露营。

       Maybe the issues are more personal or internal. Do you get mad too easily? Learn yoga or

meditation. Are you having marital problems? Visit a counselor. Are the kids having

discipline issues? Determine the major issues, establish guidelines on how you are going to

correct the problem and stick to it.
       这些话题可能太个人化或者内心化。你太容易发火吗？那就学习瑜伽或者尝试沉思吧！你有婚姻问题

吗？那就去咨询一下婚姻顾问吧！你的孩子存在一些纪律问题吗？那你可以找出主要问题，然后列出你打

算改正这个问题的纲领并持之以恒。